Forget everything you've previously heard about the female g-spot, because this should be the only primer you will ever need. This could be you and your lucky partner's ticket to paradise.

What and Where is the G-Spot?

The female g-spot or, to give it its proper name, the Grafenberg Spot, is located between the opening of the vagina and the cervix, on the anterior wall; the wall that faces the ladies pubic hair, assuming she hasn't removed it all, that is.

Basically, the g-spot's a tightly concentrated mass of nerves that can be likened to the male prostate, but because muscle and tissue surround it, it isn't always easy to find. It's a pity our "designer" didn't do a better job with the g-spot and at least put up a little sign post that fumbling men could follow.

But even if it can be a bit on the difficult side to find the exact spot, it's important you persevere because this incredibly sensitive area of the female anatomy is capable of producing thunderous erotic orgasms that your woman will love you for.

However, it's important to understand that not all women respond to g-spot massage so this isn't a one size fits all experience. If you find it and it doesn't work, well... at least you'll have given it your best shot. If it does work, on the other hand, there will be no looking back!

How to Find the G-Spot

Unfortunately, most men have little more than a rudimentary understanding of the female anatomy at best, and at worst, couldn't tell the difference between a g-spot and a g-string.

Calm down, guys! You know it's true.

But let's be fair; every woman is a unique specimen of feminine erogenous zones, each with her own individual protocol for stimulation, arousal and satisfaction. A lot of women are still searching for it, so take heart and be diligent. If you're the one who gives her what she's looking for, you'll be her knight in shining armour!

The idea of finding the g-spot should be approached scientifically at first, because the odds on hitting the mother-load on your first attempt is next to zero. The key is to communicate with your partner, because even if she hasn't explored for her g-spot before, she's still the best guide you're ever going to have on your expedition for the elusive female g-spot.

During foreplay, with the vagina well stimulated, insert your index and middle finger about two or three inches inside, with the palm of your hand facing the pubic mound (that's where the hair is/was, guys). Carefully turn your hand and begin gently stroking the facing vaginal wall about half way between the pubic bone and the cervix. You may feel a series of bumps or ridges, a raised area, or possibly nothing of any special consequence; again every woman is different, and so is the particular size, shape and constitution of her g-spot. Most report that it's about the size of a peanut, but if you find something bigger or smaller, don't be put off.

Some of the common signs of finding the g-spot may include a greatly heightened sense of intense arousal, often coupled with a desire to urinate. However, only when enough pressure's applied to the area will you partner feel arousal, so don't feel you have to be as careful with the g-spot as you do with her clitoris. We're talking two entirely different forms of arousal here.

You should eventually feel the area swell, much as a penis or clitoris does when stimulated. Continue to massage the area, pressing your fingers up and down and side to side.

Above all, be patient. Finding the female g-spot is challenging even for the most experienced lover. Even if your partner insists that she never has a problem finding the g-spot, remind her that you never claimed to be a gynaecologist, and that with the proper training, diet and corporate sponsorship, you too could be going for g-spot gold in the next Olympics.

Some women enjoy dual stimulation of the g-spot and clitoris; others find this just too much to handle. Feel your way forward and be aware of your woman's reactions. This isn't about what you want to do to her but what she wants you to do. She's your best guide - the main player!

Don't be alarmed if she ejaculates. There's nothing abnormal about it and she isn't peeing herself. Yes, unfortunately some men still believe that's what's happening and leap out of bed, ready to throw their boxers back on.

Some women experience a powerful surge, others no fluid at all; it can be nearly clear or milky coloured; there may be a surprisingly large amount, or it may be almost undetectable.

Finding the g-spot may be challenging, but it's well worth the effort, because when it comes to sexual satisfaction, the allure of the female g-spot is like Mount Everest: it has to be conquered!