Oral Sex

There's no getting around it, oral sex is one of life's greatest pleasures and definitely shouldn't be taken for granted. Having good oral sex technique is critical if you want to be performing oral sex on your partner with any degree of proficiency.

Oral sex can either be the appetiser or the main course itself, so being competent in your oral sex technique should be part of any woman's sexual portfolio, whether you're straight, gay, bi or swinging any which way you choose. Obviously there are different approaches concerning men and women regarding the application of oral sex, but some general guidelines apply to both genders.

Be Gentle and Communicate

The operative word is gentle; we're talking about the most sensitive parts of the male and female bodies, so act accordingly. It's no good thinking that you have the world's greatest oral sex technique if your partner's telling you to stop, whether directly or indirectly.

Communication is the key to good sex and in order to develop a good oral sex technique, it's important you know what turns your partner on and what they'd rather you didn't do. Everybody doesn't like things to be done in the same way so make sure you proceed on the basis of knowledge and understanding of their personal desires.

Fellatio

When it comes to performing oral sex on men, some women have an aversion to fellatio for a variety of reasons, with the most common fears being that their partner's hygiene habits may not be of acceptable standard, and the gag reflex.

Men often find that their partners find the idea of oral sex 'dirty' or 'gross,' and will rarely if ever engage in it. Most of these women want to pleasure their partners in this highly personal manner, and are left feeling inadequate, while their men are left with feelings of disparity and dissatisfaction.

A fulfilling sexual relationship, including good oral sex technique, is all about learning and sharing with your partner in order to satisfy them. Nothing can be more frustrating in a sexual relationship than having an imbalance in giving and receiving pleasure. If you adamantly refuse to administer oral sex, then surely it's only fair that you don't expect it yourself? A good rule of thumb is that if you enjoy receiving oral sex from your lover, you should be willing to reciprocate in turn.

The key again is communication. Talking with your partner can mean all the difference when it comes to improving your oral sex technique, and thus your sex life. There's always something new you can try, something you're both curious about or haven't done before, so discussing these options in advance will ensure that there are no unwanted surprises when the lights go down. It's all about being comfortable while satisfying each other.

Cunnilingus

For women, cunnilingus a sexual act that's been long neglected in the history of the boudoir can truly be a pathway to heavenly delights.

It's even more critical to have good oral sex technique when performing oral sex on women because of its obvious importance in providing intense orgasms.

While it's true that woman generally have an inherent understanding of how to stimulate the vagina, it's not like there's a manual for them, or that every woman will respond in a similar way to various forms of oral sex stimulation. It's for this reason that it's essential to communicate with your lover if you want to improve your oral sex technique, because ultimately she is the one who will benefit from your prowess and expertise and only she knows what works and what doesn't.

Gentle caressing, kissing and massaging of a woman's body is highly effective as foreplay and serves as a good precursor for oral sex but each woman has her own threshold when it comes to performing oral sex, especially on her sensitive clitoris. The onus, therefore, is on you to be aware of those boundaries and to respect them.

And Ultimately

Whether you prefer your sex with a man, a woman, or both, oral sex should be a means by which you stimulate your partner because you want to satisfy them, rather than from a sense of duty. With the right approach, there should be very little to stop you from broadening your oral sex technique or, in plain English, giving a damned good blow job!