Two's company and three's a crowd? Not any more it isn't!

The idea of a hot threesome is probably the most common sexual fantasy among heterosexual men, and ranks pretty highly for hetero women as well. But the real problem for mild mannered couples looking for a threesome party is: how to go about initiating it?

Swingers Beware

For many, the first choice might seem easy enough - why not a close friend that you or your partner find attractive? What could be more natural than someone you've both spent time with, and feel comfortable around? Well, if it sounds too good to be true, it probably is, and for a threesome fantasy, bringing somebody close to you into the equation can be a bloody disaster.

You may think that you know everything about yourself and your partner, and as much about your close friends as is possible, but that's while you all have your clothes on and aren't coveting one another's naughty bits like expelled nuns from a cloister. Getting between the sheets for a hot threesome with a close friend can have some fairly sobering repercussions that can seriously jeopardize not only your relationship with your friend, but with your partner as well, so the sage advice would be to look elsewhere.

If, however, you and your significant other and a willing and thoughtful friend discuss the matter and draw up some respectable ground rules regarding your hot threesome, then by all means, bang a gong. Just remember that sex has the quite remarkable ability to alter one's interaction with others in often surprising ways, so consider yourself forewarned.

So, if the close circle of friends may not be the answer to securing your hot threesome, where does one go?

Finding a Partner for Threesomes

Well, even your quiet little hamlet of Chaste-on-Prudery can be teeming with a wide variety of like minded folks looking to expand their sexual repertoire. A quick and painless search engine query for your local area can provide a wealth of information regarding how to find someone to fulfil your threesome party. It's safe, anonymous and can offer some wonderfully helpful information on where to seek out your third.

Adult dating contact sites are also a useful way to go. Choose one of the more popular ones and your chances of finding somebody to pop under the duvet with will be significantly increased. There are people just like you looking for red hot threesome parties all over the country.

For the more adventurous, there is the well established option of swinger's clubs. Though the name was once synonymous with the sort of free wheeling, sexually liberating though slightly sordid places that were once frequented by men in denim leisure suits and 'Brut' cologne and women in green eye shadow and gigantic false eyelashes, times have changed.

Swingers clubs have become a great deal more commonplace and acceptable. They are generally well maintained, have strict guidelines as to conduct and behaviour, and come in a multitude of categories, such as Straight, Gay, S+M, Bondage etc. If your hot threesome fantasy doesn't come true here, it probably never will.

Today's swinger's clubs can offer a literal banquet of different sexual experiences and, obviously, threesome parties rank highly. The main advantages of a swinger's club is, of course, the relative anonymity and impermanence that a stranger can offer - this is not likely someone you'll see at the next New Year's Eve party with the gang.

Now this is not to say that you should just get off with the first pair of broad shoulders or shapely gams that catch you and your partner's eye, because even within these permissive confines you'll want to do at least some cursory research into the prospective third wheel. After all, sex in this day and age can be fraught with peril, and one needs to take all necessary precautions to avoid any unpleasantries.

That being said however, a swinger's club can be among the safest and most reliable means of bringing your threesome party to fruition. Once again, the easiest means of finding one in your area would be through simple search online - gosh this Internet thing is almost geared towards sex isn't it?

If none of these are your preferred choice, then a general search for individuals either on the web or through local classified ads can be the answer. If you've never explored the racier sections of your local classifieds, you might be surprised to discover that they are also quite rife with people looking to engage in a hot threesome. They are well worth perusing if you're curious or are committed to the idea of fulfilling a threesome fantasy.

Reaping the Rewards

The whole idea of a hot threesome is to let yourselves explore a side of your sexuality which hasn't been available to you before. In that spirit, do your homework and the rewards may be greater than you think.

In other words, two may be company, but three's a blast.